Moving on and Letting go..

Letting go is not an easy thing to do. Specially being separated to someone that you grow fond of and cling to the moment when you were still together is really gonna break your heart. People like to talk about heartache 'cause maybe it's a universal thing that everyone can connect with and no one exempt from the brokenness, and it made us human and it shows our vulnerability. There are tips that can help you to move on.

First is FORGIVENESS. Forgive the person not only for that person, but also for yourself. Also forgive yourself from the stupid things you’ve done before, accept that we all make mistakes and that's fine, ask God for his grace to open your heart for forgiveness.

And second thing in the process is to seek out the help that you need, it may be your friends and family who will listen to you without judging, or it can be their mentorship that will guide you to get through your life, engage yourself in a community and also read bible; Those who seek God's words will find the love that they deserve. Joining community works will help you to sympathize and you will learn that you are not the only one who is struggling. It is important for us to have a support system, find people who will help you to get over the these things.

And the last tip is: Let your self grieve, allow yourself to grieve. It's ok to cry, allow your self to process your emotions. Accept the fact that you let things happened and that's the end of it. And also lamentation with God, grieve with Him, lift up everything to him, the pain, sadness, agony, anger, everything. Ask God for help, surrender everything to Him and He will heal you.

Some practical steps: be honest to yourself and know it's time to let go, accept that it's the end of it, accept that it's not healthy anymore and it's not helping you both to be a better person, know your worth. Allocate your time with good people, improve yourself in the process of healing and you don’t need a special person just to move on, it might only cause another pain.

Remember, hurting people hurt people. It is better to focus on your growth and improvement. Be guarded and know when to open yourself again and take time. And lastly, feed your soul, not your ego. Moving on or letting go is not just about the mindset. You also have to make an action. If you keep going to that path, you will not grow, you will not experience the abundant life that God has given us.